He was beyond my expectation in bed. He made me cum 3 times. Making love with him was very satisfying. He is very affectionate and romantic, and I like that a lot about him. But I'm getting uneasy feelings about the whole thing... Absolutely Nothing is wrong with him. He is handsome, sweet, very smart, athletic, caring and successful. I looked for a perfect husband and now I found him, yet I'm not pleased...I know I'm impossible. I just don't think the connection and chemistry between us is that strong....even though we have a lot in common and we want the same things, I'm kinda pushing it. I'm just not feeling what I'm supposed to be feeling. Like Carrie said in sex and the city, the "za za zoo" feeling is missing. Maybe it takes time. He is a great catch. I shall take time and find out what we can become in the future.
Mr. G will have a hotel room for us this week. We haven't used a hotel in a long time so it's kinda exciting. I will keep all my SDs for a while.
Don't mess up a good thing because of a movie... He sounds great and I wish the best!
ReplyDeleteI know I know...I will take time to get to know him and give it a fair chance!
ReplyDeleteSometimes people have to grow on you. But the lack of zaza zoo can be your intuition picking up on another unforeseen issue. Definitely feel things out :) It's been a while since I've caught up on the buzz, but glad to see you're doing well!
ReplyDeletehehe thanks Dream SD...true, there might be more unforeseen issues. I'm all about negative thoughts about this perfect man.
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I have been reading your blog with interest and curiosity since you started. I have never commented until now. I'm a 43 yr old married male who has been married for 11 years. We live in Northern California. I'm a technology executive, my wife teaches public school.
ReplyDeleteI guess I'm curious why you think this guy Matt would want to marry you ?
Do you think you have the qualities that a guy like Matt is looking for in a lifelong companion? I'm curious what you think these qualities are. If you really are "husband hunting", you make it sound like you will be one choosing, similar to the way maybe you choose boys to play with, or maybe even the way you choose a Sugar Daddy. But that's not what you are talking about here. You are talking about a life companion, and it's sort of "boys choice" when it comes to picking a wife. They are the ones who ask the question. Curious how many times a man has asked you this question in your life? I dated over 100 women in my life, I asked the question we are talking about here to just one. How many men have fallen to one knee and asked you to be their wife? It's a fair question. Because it's not up to you to choose a husband, you get to pick boyfriends, lovers, Sugar Daddys. But men get to pick who they ask to marry them. And we have totally different criteria when we go "wife shopping" than when we go out looking for a "good time". Given he just left a marriage, why would you think he is even remotely in the wife market anyway? Most guys I know who have just exited a failed marriage are looking for hookups with the hottest women they can find, something they have been fantasizing about for the duration of their marriage. Do you really think this guy is anywhere close to even thinking about choosing another wife? Why would you think that?
I'm also sort of curious, you seem to be making long term dating decisions being guided by the fantasies that the writers of Sex In The City put into their main character, Carrie Bradshaw. Carrie is a made up person, who chased a guy around for years who didn't even have a name, he just went by "Big", representing all the collective fantasies that the writing team grew up with. "Big" is the unattainable perfecto-guy, a tall dark and handsome dream boat, wildly successful, charismatic, self assured, and just the right amount of "cocky". But the key quality is these guys are not attainable. They don't really exist as "real people". You can wait around for them until all of your real life mating options expire, and by that time they are only interested in women who are quite a bit younger. Sort of like the guy you write about who goes by "N", your personal version of "Big". Except obviously your version of the story doesn't end the way Carrie Bradshaw's fantasy version ended.
Anyway, you may be offended by my questions above, and if so I'm sorry for that. The questions are real though, and your thoughtful answers would be of interest.
If you really want to find a husband, asking what the qualities are that a suitable candidate wants in a wife is a fair question. What do you think those qualities are?