New Pot Minus A SD Plus A Confusing Date

I'm pretty much done with lawyer SD.  Cancelling is one thing, but not telling me that he is going to cancel our date UNLESS I keep asking him for status is another.  There is no respect.  I'm never free unless I make myself available.  I'm not "date ready" unless I get dressed up for it.  I told him that all I was asking for was minimum respect and common decency.

Out of anger and frustration, I went back to SA site and started chatting with a pot, Mr. J (I hadn't signed in for a long time!).  We agreed on the same terms as what I have with Mr. G.  My life is getting complicated right now, I don't think I want a full time SD...I guess I want to take in another part time SD for now.  We exchanged many emails and we decided to meet after Memorial weekend.  Mr. J is kinda young for a SD.  He seems like a stiff and serious businessman type...he sure could use some fun SB like me :)  I hope I can keep him interested until we meet. 

Much anticipated date with Ron last night.  I have mixed feelings now.  It was just like all the other dates we had in the past.  Dinner then going back to his place.  Nothing special.  Nothing more than usual.  No progress at all in our relaitonship.  I'm not even sure if he likes me.  He didn't show much of passion/emotions/affection towards me so I didn't show either.  Even though we had sex and I slept in his arms all night, I didn't see any sign of romance or whatsoever.  We were acting like friends the whole time (or at least that's how it seemed to me).  He said he would try to take next Saturday off to take me out again.  Well I guess he likes me somewhat.  But my question still remains unanswered for now; are we dating?